29 Nov 2017
Dr. Phil’s Got a Good Point
Love him or hate him, Dr. Phil has a good point when he looks his guests who are using the same old approach to the same old problem in the eye and asks, “how’s that working for you?”
Because the definition of insanity is continuing to do the same things over and over and expecting a different outcome!
Let’s take weight loss for instance.
How many years have you said this to yourself?
“After the holidays, I’m going to start eating healthy and I’m going to exercise every single day and I’m going to lose 10 lbs by the end of January. This time I’m going to succeed! I. AM. IN!”
So you draw on your tried-and-true bank of knowledge and approach this goal just like you always have. You cut calories. You join a gym for the coming year. You white-knuckle it through January and then… you are D.O.N.E. Except you’re still stuck paying for the gym.
To create new thinking about weight loss, you have to challenge everything you currently believe to be true. Maybe your uncle called you fat when you were 10 and you’re unconsciously carrying around the belief that you will always be overweight. What is actually possible for you becomes lost in your story and the limiting beliefs you have as a result of that story. You hide and put off your life because you have allowed this story – one that someone else gave you – to cloud your thinking.
What if you shifted your thinking?
What if you asked yourself, “what feels like love?” when it comes to food choices and exercise?
What if you stayed mindful around food?
What if you detoxed all the media messages, people and physical junk from your life?
What if you intentionally added more pleasure to your life?
What if you stopped hiding and started living?
I’m open to the possibility…
Take one of your limiting beliefs and choose a thought that feels a little bit better. No need to go all Pollyanna here. That doesn’t work either. A little bit better is what we’re after.
Here’s an example.
Old thought: “I’ve failed so many times. Why bother?”
New thought: “I’m open to the possibility that I can make small changes that will help me to feel healthier.”
See how that feels? Being open to possibilities allows you to change course 1 degree at a time. But you know what? 180 of those 1 degree changes means you’ve changed things to a completely new direction!
Doing what works requires insight and courage. It’s a whole lot easier to keep doing exactly what you’ve done before. Getting out of your comfort zone can be frightening, even if your comfort zone isn’t really so comfortable. But if you want something different, then you have to do something different.