09 Jun 2016
7 Ways to Break Free from Midlife Mindset Muck
“The biggest problem I’ve had since menopause is lack of passion/interest/direction in my life.”
“I feel frozen somehow.”
“ I seem to have lost myself.”
“ I don’t know what’s normal and what’s not. I focus on every little thing about my body.”
These are common comments I hear from my clients and the ladies in the Hormone Harmony Club. It’s almost as if their bodies are conspiring against them and they don’t know where to turn or what to do.
It’s very easy to get stuck in mental quicksand in midlife. But here’s the danger of staying in that place.
You get more of what you focus on.
It’s easy to get caught up in negative thoughts about aging, beauty, life purpose and health (among others). These lines of thinking are sure-fire mojo suckers!
If you find yourself stuck in the muck of menopause, try one of these simple tips to break free.
- Get outside. There are 2 great reasons to do this. First, sunlight greatly enhances your feeling of well-being (and give your Vitamin D levels a boost). Second, a number of studies have documented the effect of being in nature on mood. Spending as little as 5 minutes a day connecting with the outdoors helps.
- Take the FIRST step (not the first ten). Want to lose 10 lbs? Start with the first one. Exercise? Start with 5 minutes once a week. That may sound so small that you think “why bother?” But your goal is to create momentum…and small successes are the key to achieving that.
- Start a gratitude journal. We ALL have something to be grateful for every day. If you are spending your mental energy looking for those things on a daily basis, you have less time to focus on what’s going wrong. Try writing down 5 things you’re grateful for at the end of each day. This simple exercise can really shift your perspective.
- Relax. Take a few minutes every day to take an intentional time out. Do some deep breathing, meditation or do yoga. Take a nap. Sometimes when we’re stuck in our gunk, we’re just plain TIRED. It’s OK to wave the white flag and care for your body.
- Put your worries in a box. If you’re prone to anxiety and worrying about every ache or pain, give yourself a specific, limited time for this. Here’s what I mean. Schedule your worry time daily. Say from 8-8:15 AM. For that 15 minutes you get to worry about everything on your list. Go big! Because at 8:15, you’re done for the day. Another way to do this is to get a decorative box and write down what you’re worried/anxious about. Put it in the box and turn it over to whatever Higher Power you believe in. Consider it handled.
- Consider a hormone imbalance as the root cause of what’s going on. If you’re lacking drive, passion or vitality, that could indicate a testosterone deficiency. Insomnia, fatigue and anxiety? That’s likely to be a progesterone deficiency. Hormone testing can help you identify exactly which imbalances are contributing to your problems so they can be addressed. If your health care provider isn’t on board with checking it all out, find another one. Or contact me. Learn to be a partner with your provider. You can find out how to more effectively do that here.
- Reach out. Surround yourself with friends who love and support you. Find a live or virtual community of women who are traveling this road to be a part of. It’s incredibly helpful when you discover that what you are experiencing is VERY common and that you are not alone. That single realization can be a game-changer for many women. That’s what the Hormone Harmony Club is all about.
Perimenopause and menopause can be a challenging time of life. But it can also be a time of great awakening. Take time to educate yourself about the process and symptoms to watch out for. Learn to be your own best advocate. But above all, give yourself grace and know that this too will pass.
Dr. Anna Garrett is a menopause expert and Doctor of Pharmacy. She helps women who are struggling with symptoms of perimenopause and menopause find natural hormone balancing solutions so they can rock their mojo through midlife and beyond. Her clients would tell you that her real gift is helping them reclaim parts of themselves they thought were gone forever.
Find out more about working with her at https://www.drannagarrett.com/work-with-me/.