14 Jan 2016
What’s Weighing You Down?
I’ve begun noticing something that’s distressing. Many of my hormonal sisters put up with loads of crap in their lives. The chaos of perimenopause should be enough, right? There are many flavors of this junk, but some of the more common ones include:
- Husbands who are abusive at worst and unhelpful at best.
- Adult children who suck the life out of moms because there are no boundaries in place.
- Doctors who dismiss perimenopause symptoms leaving lovely ladies to suffer needlessly.
- Soul-sucking jobs that are draining and provide the bare minimum of a paycheck.
This is just the tip of the iceberg.
I know that sometimes it feels easier to take the path of least resistance and be a victim than it is to pull up your big-girl panties and say NO MORE! Been there and done that. But doing this over and over leads to depression, isolation and resentment (among other things). And this is not healthy!
There’s a lot in life we have to tolerate (taxes, bad weather, traffic). But there’s a good chunk we suck up when we don’t have to.
We ignore the check engine light, give the stink eye to the socks our partners toss on the floor, put up with the critical friend, and mindlessly accept the annoyances that drain our energy. And we become numb to the negative impact these things have on our lives.
Maybe it’s the clutter piled up in your office or bedroom or your car. Or the oil that needs to be changed in your car.
Or maybe it’s something bigger—like a home that doesn’t meet your needs, friends, kids or partners who are walking all over you or hormone imbalance symptoms that are ruining your quality of life. Think about it. Those things in your life that are out of alignment are more than just annoyances.
Imagine for a moment that each of these thing you tolerate is a rock tied to your ankle. One or two of those rocks wouldn’t necessarily slow you down. But if there were 15 or 20, you’d probably have a hard time moving!
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stuck in your life, I invite you to ask yourself this question: “What am I putting up with right now?” Make a list of at least five things in your home, work, relationships, and health. Here are a few examples:
- Messy closets
- Friendships that are not reciprocal
- A spouse who is verbally abusive
- Appliances that need to be fixed
- Able-bodied adult children who constantly need to be bailed out of financial difficulty
- A car that needs maintenance
- Piles of mail that need to be sorted
- A job you hate
You get the picture.
If you’re having trouble making your list, use this tool to identify your challenging areas. Prioritize the things that are making you the craziest. Then create an action plan to begin eliminating these nuisances from your life.
Spend 10 minutes decluttering a space.
Have the tough conversation (ask a friend to role play with you).
Call the repairman. Whatever it takes to get that mojo flowing again!
Not sure where to start? Let’s talk! Working with a coach to jump-start your action plan can be just the ticket to get you moving. I offer a complimentary 30-minute call to explore ways in which we might work together.
About Dr. Anna
Dr. Anna Garrett is a pharmacist and menopause expert who helps women who are struggling with symptoms of perimenopause and menopause find natural hormone balancing solutions so they can rock their mojo through midlife and beyond. But her clients would tell you that her real gift is helping them reclaim pieces of themselves they thought were gone forever.
Dr. Anna offers a complimentary 30-minute Get Acquainted Call to anyone who’d like to learn more about working 1-1 with her. You can schedule that at your convenience by clicking here.