07 Mar 2013
Be Impeccable with Your Word
“The word is a force, it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby create the events in your life.”
~Don Miguel Ruiz
“I must be stupid. I’ve been working on myself since I was 17! I’m 57 for God’s sake and I’m just not getting it. What’s WRONG with me? Tell me what I need to do!”
My client, Sarah, is frustrated and is reeling off a litany of all that is wrong with her. This firehose of negative self-talk is a perfect example of NOT being impeccable with your word.
You may be wondering exactly what it means to be “impeccable with your word”. According to Ruiz, this agreement means “to speak with integrity; to say what you mean; to use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love”.
Think about that statement:
- Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love. That would mean that self -deprecating talk is out because it does not love you;
- Gossip is out because it’s not truth;
- Speaking from anger towards anyone is out because it’s not coming from a direction of love.
Words are powerful. When we hear an opinion and believe it, we make an agreement. In Sarah’s case, her mother’s opinion was that Sarah would never be “good enough”. And Sarah still believes this many years later. Her agreement is that she doesn’t speak up or question things that don’t make sense to her (especially in work situations), fearing that her thoughts and opinions are “wrong”. This belief has zapped her personal and professional mojo for years.
Fortunately, it is possible to break old agreements and create new ones. By practicing being impeccable with her word, Sarah can now begin to move toward success, abundance and living in integrity with who she really wants to be….an outspoken, status-quo-busting, seeker of the truth.
How about you? Is being less than impeccable with your word holding you back?