14 Feb 2013

Be Your Own Valentine (BYOV): Write a Love Letter to Yourself

Cupid’s back again. The cynics are crabbing about jacked-up flower prices. The newly-in-love are going all out with cards and teddy bears and expensive dinners.  And if you’re not in a love relationship, it’s hard to give Valentine’s Day anything more than an eye-roll.

But what if we all looked at it differently this year?

Why not write a love letter to yourself?

Use this simple 3-step process to get started.

Step 1

Write a heartfelt letter of gratitude, appreciation and love to yourself about yourself. What do you love, admire and value about yourself? What qualities in yourself are you grateful for? Take some time, put some conscious and generous thoughts and feelings into it and allow yourself to boldly express your love for yourself.

Step 2

Put the letter in a sealed envelope with your name, address and a stamp on it.

Step 3

Give the letter to someone you trust and ask them to drop it in the mail to you at some point in the next year (without telling you when they do it).

It will show up in the perfect time and probably on a day you could really use some appreciation and acknowledgment. And, the best part is that the love and validation will come from you!

If this is uncomfortable for you, you’re not alone. But here’s the thing. Self-love is an amazing gift and you really can’t love other people fully until you love yourself.

This year, be brave and push the edges of your comfort zone. And when that letter surprises you in the coming year, the discomfort of doing this will be a vague memory.


Dr. Anna Garrett

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